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Definition of Unconditional Love

I was just looking at a picture of me and Kalen on my desk...and I started to think. Is there really such a thing as "unconditional" love?

Definition of Unconditional Love...being able to love that person for ALL his/her faults and ALL his/her action, being able to forgive that person no matter what...

Is that humanly possible? I think the first part is...loving the person for his/her faults and actions, but honestly, how easy is forgiveness? You know what they say, if you TRULY forgive someone than you must forget the situation every occurred. To truly forgive someone, one must be able to let go of the past hurt and pain. As humans, letting go of something that has scarred our heart in anyway is incredibly difficult, particularly letting go of any hostility or resentment that may have festered during this time of pain.

Though it is difficult...I believe some steps to it may be to develop an openness that people can and do change and developing a stronger trust in others. Also, being open, honest, and having assertive communication with others concerning your past pains/hurts, and offensive experiences. Having the ability to let go and no longer point blame is also an important factor of forgiving someone.

Typically, when someone has wronged us the first thing to leave and be tarnished is the absolute trust we had in that person. People tend to go into situations more timidly and not with their complete heart...in my thought, I figure, "Why enter a situation where you aren't going to put in 150%?" Everything I try to do, either for myself or for others I put 150% into it, or I don't do it. To me, if I am not going to give it my all, there is no point to do things half-assed.

Well...as they say..."To err is human, to forgive is divine".

Comments

narri
Jul. 11th, 2002 11:36 pm (UTC)
Unconditional love most definitely can exist. But, like many human emotions, it is also susceptible to failure. One must not confuse uncoditional love with unconditional servitude. There are people that I love unconditionally against whom I hold grudges, whom I treat poorly at times, etc. As a human, I sometimes let my selfishness and ego centric tendencies overcome my true feelings, often because it is easier -- it can be difficult to have to deal with reconciling the wrong someone we love has done us with the love we feel for them, and it is often painful. It is easier to bury this under negative feelings. It is a way of avoiding having to come to terms with something that we don't like, are hurt by, are afraid of, etc.

I don't think that total forgiveness requires forgetting that something happened. Not letting it effect behavior, attitude and action is necessary, though. The whole concept of "forgive and forget" is only necessary in cases where there is not love enough for true forgiveness.

I could probably prattle on, but I am tired.

Good night.

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