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Selective racism...

So...being the fabulous, wonderful sister/person/woman/...let's just say overall human being that I am...I offered to come down when Jen is closer to delivery and help out or provide emotional support. :-) Since she has no one (my brother doesn't count) I need to be that someone.

Here's the thing...when Jen married my brother her parents disowned her. Why you ask? Simply because my brother isn't white. Now...I find this to be very confusing...because Jen is Korean, and she was adopted by a Vietnamese woman and a white man. Uh...right. So my brother and I are half black and half Korean...so...hmm...what I don't understand is selective racism.

I understand racism...I understand thinking you are better than ALL other races...but to be selective about which race? I don't fully understand that. Perhaps it is color of skin? I'm not sure...but the thing is...if you are going to be a bigot...at least have the common decency and courtesy to exude that intolerance to ALL races and not just some.

Ok...obviously I'm being snarky...overall I think it is stupid to disown someone over something so insignificant. What kind of parental love is that if you can't be happy for your own child...the way I see it...as a parent you love your child...you support them...and in some instances you simply accept their choices or decisions.


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Mar. 21st, 2007 06:59 pm (UTC)
Selective racism is no different than racism in general. I know my parents were extremely racist growing up, but it was the only reality they knew how to survive in (be racist against other groups because other groups are racist against you). For the majority of parents out there, there's a line where you go I cannot love my own child if he or she does X, whatever X might be, it's sad and it ain't right but it is what it is.

I know that there's a rift between myself and the older generation of my family for similar reasons, they just do not get what I'm about and more or less we've both given up trying to understand each other, we're more or less strangers / acquaintances more than family now a days. But they're just so suck in their ways that they'll never really understand that the #1 important thing is for me to be happy even if it's completely 100 percent against what they want for me.
Mar. 21st, 2007 07:29 pm (UTC)
Speaking of my parents. Being Korean, I have to say of any race they hated more, it would be someone black. Maybe it's a 1st generation immigrant thing, but I know a lot of people in the Korean community did not get along with people from the African American community. I mean LA Riots is a prime example of this, but even in NY during the late 80s, it was a tense time between Korean grocery store owners who had their stores in predominately Black areas.

I'm curious (just as someone who's interested in race relations questions) how you felt growing up being bi-racial. Did you experience any bigotry from either Koreans or African Americans?
Mar. 21st, 2007 07:46 pm (UTC)

I actually wrote a journal entry on this a few years ago...

See here: http://natalie516.livejournal.com/257509.html

My mom was born in Korea...she didn't move to the US until she was 19...I guess it never mattered to her.

Mar. 22nd, 2007 07:01 pm (UTC)
That's still an interesting situation, I wonder how much her age of immigration / why she left Korea / how much of a native Korean speaking population she interacted with when she moved here.

Growing up in an area of NYC where most of the signs aren't even in English, my growing up was completely different from someone who is Korean but was raised in another part of the country.
Mar. 22nd, 2007 07:46 pm (UTC)
hehe...my mom is a pretty interesting woman. She has 7 brothers and sisters and she is the 3rd oldest...so she definitely helped raise them. It is really weird...she doesn't know her real birthday because the child that was born before her died, so they gave her his birthday :-/ What kind of bullshit is that?

I am not sure if there were too many native Korean speakers in Seattle in 1964...Seattle was pretty much a backwater town back then.

Right now, I know that her story is like 2 blocks from the "Korean District" and I know she spends a lot of time there.
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