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Does it exist and is it too much?

So I have just been having some bizarre dreams...I either have sex on the brain or just men in general! lol...perhaps this is asking for too much...

1. Intelligent
2. Mentally Stable
3. Financially Stable
4. Similar humor as me
5. Active (physically and sexually :))
6. Romantic/Thoughtful
7. Ambitious

Hmmm...7 things...that is only the important stuff. lol...(sigh) Maybe I just want too much?

1. I want to be able to speak to someone about anything/everything. The in-depth knowledge doesn't have to be there, but it would be nice if they are able to converse without sounding stupid

2. I just don't want someone who has a low self-esteen and is will be insecure all the time, sometimes is understandable, just not ALL the time

3. He doesn't have to make a shit load of money, but knowing how to manage it is enough

4. My humor is a little...different :) I suppose that is the only way to really describe it, I have a dry/sarcastic sense of humor. However, I can laugh at just about anything!

5. I don't want to sit home all day and do nothing! We don't have to go out and spend money, but maybe go for walks, hiking, or something! He of course has to like sex as much as me! :)

6. He doesn't have to be romantic persay...just thoughtful. It would be nice if I went to work and I was surprised by flowers, or went home and was surprised by dinners. Just something nice and sweet. The reason I dont think this is too much is because I treat my men this way. Not with flowers of course, but with little surprises, such as dinners, cards, poems, presents...etc...

7. I want him to have goals. Too many people want to settle for the crap they have. I want someone who has a goal reaches it and is happy! :)

So...I wonder if someone like this exists...


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Oct. 8th, 2002 04:35 pm (UTC)
I'm sure, well except for the sex part ;)
Oct. 9th, 2002 08:41 pm (UTC)
lol...why not the sex part? That is very important
Oct. 10th, 2002 10:10 am (UTC)
guys hate sex, didn't you know? Its all a big myth!
Oct. 8th, 2002 07:43 pm (UTC)
I don't think you are asking too much, that's what I look for in a man ...(dramatic pause)... but I also use the same criteria(it's like I am a judge or something) when I begin to become interested in a woman, which I prefer according to the Kinsey Scale. You aren't really asking too much for any of those, well the sex one may be asking too much, I mean guys really aren't into sex, they are into emotions and feelings you should know this by now....
Oct. 9th, 2002 08:41 pm (UTC)
What do mean guys aren't really into sex? Surely, you jest!
Oct. 9th, 2002 06:52 am (UTC)
dear Natalie,
i think you have to realise that not everyone is all those things at once. sometimes one tends to overcompensate in a few categories, and lack in others...and then makes up for the others later. men are sad sad animals, being one i know this.
Oct. 9th, 2002 08:42 pm (UTC)
I am not saying that a man has to have equal amounts of those qualities...even a little tiny bit would be nice...
Oct. 9th, 2002 05:18 pm (UTC)
Holy crap that's me!


Oct. 9th, 2002 08:39 pm (UTC)
lol...where have you been all my life???
Oct. 9th, 2002 10:40 pm (UTC)
Getting dumped on by everyone else would be where I've been.


I wrote my own Fate, but wouldent you know it I had to have an editor.
Oct. 9th, 2002 06:25 pm (UTC)
It's a matter of balance.
There is nobody in the world who posesses purely positive characteristics. There is also nobody who is equal in all their virtues. The man you have described might exist...depending on where you weight each of the characteristics in terms of importance.

For example...the hyperintelligent tend to be an odd mixture of insecure and crotchety. Sort of like me except...you know...the whole hyperintelligent thing. If you're looking for a MIT Phi Betta Kappa you might have to downgrade some stuff on the list.

Likewise there tend to be tradeoffs in thoughtfullness and sexual appetite. Not that a true romantic can't be a horn dog...but rather that the cerebral and carnal are OFTEN in opposition or at least seen as being in opposition.

In other words there are a wide variety of men who meet your criteria but whether they are good choices depends on the weighting of each attribute.

Furthermore I find it somewhat puzzling that you have not included "honest and forthright" as a neccesary attribute since it is quite possible for a man to be all the things you describe and still be a lying cheating Cad
Oct. 9th, 2002 08:46 pm (UTC)
Re: It's a matter of balance.
honest and forthright

That is an excellent point! I will add that. I do not expect a man to be "hyperintelligent" as you put it, just intelligent period. Intelligence is weighed on a grand scale, just because someone is book smart and can spout quotes does not mean that they are intelligent in other ways.

Likewise there tend to be tradeoffs in thoughtfullness and sexual appetite

I don't think that is so much to ask, why? Because I am thoughtful and I am a complete horn-dog. I am very sweet, giving, thoughtful, and caring towards those I am involved with...those qualities I have listed above I myself have; sure, sure...sounds arrogant, but it's true.

Who knows...I do not expect every man I date to have those qualities...but having a 2/3 of them would be enough for me...with the addition of honest and forthright
Oct. 9th, 2002 10:45 pm (UTC)
Re: It's a matter of balance.
Yes, yes but the fact remains that I'm perfect!


Honestly I am its not vanity just a fact.
Apr. 13th, 2003 07:33 pm (UTC)
...and six months and 3,000 miles later here I am : /

crazy how this all exactly what I just told you! ... like EXACTLY! OMG

anyway... well I guess this is good news because if ths is what you were looking for and here I am, then it must mean that the girl I am looking for exists. hmm. (yeah logical reasoning!)
Apr. 13th, 2003 07:52 pm (UTC)
Well...I have always found people with some of the qualities, not all. Unlike you, I still date people. Personally, and between you and me, I am worried that when I get out of school and get a job, I will outgrow my current boyfriend. He is sweet...but he lacks excitement and adventure...in short, he is a homebody.
Apr. 13th, 2003 08:26 pm (UTC)
Unlike you, I still date people.

what do you mean???

yes, you need some more excitement.
Apr. 13th, 2003 10:39 pm (UTC)

You didn't close your italic you know...

I meant have a girlfriend, not "you don't date", I am sure you do date. hehe...

And how do you know I need more excitement?
Apr. 13th, 2003 10:43 pm (UTC)
ok, im lost... so whatever

hey if you're online shoot me an IM
Apr. 14th, 2003 08:25 am (UTC)
lol...you are funny. I was on-line, but I just checked my e-mail really quick before I went back to homework. ;)

Hope you have a good day!
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