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Does it exist and is it too much?

So I have just been having some bizarre dreams...I either have sex on the brain or just men in general! lol...perhaps this is asking for too much...

1. Intelligent
2. Mentally Stable
3. Financially Stable
4. Similar humor as me
5. Active (physically and sexually :))
6. Romantic/Thoughtful
7. Ambitious

Hmmm...7 things...that is only the important stuff. lol...(sigh) Maybe I just want too much?

1. I want to be able to speak to someone about anything/everything. The in-depth knowledge doesn't have to be there, but it would be nice if they are able to converse without sounding stupid

2. I just don't want someone who has a low self-esteen and is will be insecure all the time, sometimes is understandable, just not ALL the time

3. He doesn't have to make a shit load of money, but knowing how to manage it is enough

4. My humor is a little...different :) I suppose that is the only way to really describe it, I have a dry/sarcastic sense of humor. However, I can laugh at just about anything!

5. I don't want to sit home all day and do nothing! We don't have to go out and spend money, but maybe go for walks, hiking, or something! He of course has to like sex as much as me! :)

6. He doesn't have to be romantic persay...just thoughtful. It would be nice if I went to work and I was surprised by flowers, or went home and was surprised by dinners. Just something nice and sweet. The reason I dont think this is too much is because I treat my men this way. Not with flowers of course, but with little surprises, such as dinners, cards, poems, presents...etc...

7. I want him to have goals. Too many people want to settle for the crap they have. I want someone who has a goal reaches it and is happy! :)

So...I wonder if someone like this exists...


Oct. 9th, 2002 06:25 pm (UTC)
It's a matter of balance.
There is nobody in the world who posesses purely positive characteristics. There is also nobody who is equal in all their virtues. The man you have described might exist...depending on where you weight each of the characteristics in terms of importance.

For example...the hyperintelligent tend to be an odd mixture of insecure and crotchety. Sort of like me except...you know...the whole hyperintelligent thing. If you're looking for a MIT Phi Betta Kappa you might have to downgrade some stuff on the list.

Likewise there tend to be tradeoffs in thoughtfullness and sexual appetite. Not that a true romantic can't be a horn dog...but rather that the cerebral and carnal are OFTEN in opposition or at least seen as being in opposition.

In other words there are a wide variety of men who meet your criteria but whether they are good choices depends on the weighting of each attribute.

Furthermore I find it somewhat puzzling that you have not included "honest and forthright" as a neccesary attribute since it is quite possible for a man to be all the things you describe and still be a lying cheating Cad
Oct. 9th, 2002 08:46 pm (UTC)
Re: It's a matter of balance.
honest and forthright

That is an excellent point! I will add that. I do not expect a man to be "hyperintelligent" as you put it, just intelligent period. Intelligence is weighed on a grand scale, just because someone is book smart and can spout quotes does not mean that they are intelligent in other ways.

Likewise there tend to be tradeoffs in thoughtfullness and sexual appetite

I don't think that is so much to ask, why? Because I am thoughtful and I am a complete horn-dog. I am very sweet, giving, thoughtful, and caring towards those I am involved with...those qualities I have listed above I myself have; sure, sure...sounds arrogant, but it's true.

Who knows...I do not expect every man I date to have those qualities...but having a 2/3 of them would be enough for me...with the addition of honest and forthright
Oct. 9th, 2002 10:45 pm (UTC)
Re: It's a matter of balance.
Yes, yes but the fact remains that I'm perfect!


Honestly I am its not vanity just a fact.