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I want to do something romantic for my boyfriend...any ideas/suggestions? when I say romantic I mean all out surprise...an area I can take him, dinner I can make him...etc...etc...

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cozmo
Oct. 22nd, 2002 05:43 pm (UTC)
So you wanna take him then make him huh? Or is it the other way around? ;)


..don't mind me...
natalie516
Oct. 23rd, 2002 03:16 pm (UTC)
Re:
Yeah Pretty much!!! LOL
socratic
Oct. 23rd, 2002 04:45 am (UTC)
Doesn't that sort of defeat the whole purpose?
Isn't trolling for other people's ideas of romantic sort of a counterproductive activity? I thought one of the main POINTS of romance was that it was homegrown and had effort put into it. Aren't those men who delegate selecting an anniversary gift to their secretaries being shockingly UNromantic? Why is it different when you seek out activity suggestions from random people on the internet? Unless, of course, there are different rules for romance for men and women...which there probably are. Still I'd think that if he's truly enraptured by you mojo he'd care more about the gesture coming from your heart and mind than what in particular it was. Frankly most men don't go for big silly romantic gestures. I'd say clean his apartment and fellate him if you want to do something he'd truly appreciate, or take him to the Ballet if you want to make him squirm.

Also I'm surprised nobody has used the term "rebound" in your journal yet? Of course it's impossible to claim that that IS the case, but the whole 'burn hot burn fast' concept might rear its ugly head. The most romantic thing you could do would be to truly examine your feelings from a dispassionate perspective and figure out whether any of it is residual from your last bout of betrayal. Far be it from me to question somebody's feelings, but if you don't carefully check your heart with your mind you run the risk of getting hurt, or worse hurting someone who doesn't deserve it. Serious contemplation is generally advisable before words like love and destiny are cast around willy nilly.
natalie516
Oct. 24th, 2002 05:00 pm (UTC)
Not really...
Isn't trolling for other people's ideas of romantic sort of a counterproductive activity? I thought one of the main POINTS of romance was that it was homegrown and had effort put into it.
I don't think it's counterproductive, I like to get other people's thoughts, there is nothing wrong with that. What I do with those ideas and thoughts is another thing. This question was more directed for people who know the area because I wanted more ideas on where I could possibly take him.

Aren't those men who delegate selecting an anniversary gift to their secretaries being shockingly UNromantic? Why is it different when you seek out activity suggestions from random people on the internet?
Yes

Unless, of course, there are different rules for romance for men and women...which there probably are.
No there are not different rules

Still I'd think that if he's truly enraptured by you mojo he'd care more about the gesture coming from your heart and mind than what in particular it was.
Oh he is enraptured. He can't believe that I am thoughtful, there are so many people out there who are selfish and don't know how to show people they care. Also, him and I have the most wonderful debates...he is a huge fan of Nietschze, I personally can't stand the man, however, it leads to interesting conversations...however, that is neither here nor there.

Frankly most men don't go for big silly romantic gestures.
The keyword is most, fortunately he does like to do romantic things, and in turn be on the receiving end. Fortunately him and I both demand high maintenance.

I'd say clean his apartment and fellate him if you want to do something he'd truly appreciate, or take him to the Ballet if you want to make him squirm.
I didn't clean his apartment, however I did cook dinner for him, did the dishes, made him coffee...however he is so sweet because he returns the actions...he made me breakfast. That and I always ask him if he wants/needs anything before I arrive at his house, so I can pick something up for him :)

As for fellatio...I do it everytime we have sex.

I am not much of a ballet goer myself, however I do enjoy a musical and him and I are talking of attending Les Miserables. :)

natalie516
Oct. 24th, 2002 05:01 pm (UTC)
Not really contd...
Also I'm surprised nobody has used the term "rebound" in your journal yet?
I am not mourning for Kalen because he doesn't deserved to be mourned for. I was in a relationship with someone that I should have stayed out of the moment we broke up the first time. We broke up in April, got back together in April, broke up in June, got back together end of August. We broke up in September and I don't regret it. I am glad. I was in a verbally abusive relationship because I was too blind and stupid to get and keep myself out of it. The way I see it, I learned something from him and I learned what I do not need and what I DO NOT want.

Him and I had nothing in common, he was running down a road of destruction, he drank too much, smoked too much (and I don't just mean cigarettes). I on the other hand am graduating college soon and I am going to have a great, promising job, i.e. future. I don't need to be pulled down by him.

Besides, I did what I had to do with Scott to "get over" Kalen. Some may not agree with the way I did it, but I did what I had to do and it worked. One should stick with things that works for them right?

The most romantic thing you could do would be to truly examine your feelings from a dispassionate perspective and figure out whether any of it is residual from your last bout of betrayal.
Absolutely not, I am more angry at myself for having trusted Kalen for as long as I did. I have always prided myself on being a good judge of character, however with Kalen as an example it clearly indicates that I was not wise with him.

Far be it from me to question somebody's feelings, but if you don't carefully check your heart with your mind you run the risk of getting hurt, or worse hurting someone who doesn't deserve it.
I already have, but thank you anyway.

Serious contemplation is generally advisable before words like love and destiny are cast around willy nilly.
As both Eric and I are in the Science and Engineering field we both had a very difficult time with the way our feelings towards one another has progressed. I am not throwing around the words love and destiny, I honestly feel that it was fate. I am in love with him. Yes I know, cliche, crazy, and indescribable; However, emotions are not one can reason.
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